Wednesday, May 24, 2017

ten days

It's almost here.

The day that I have been dreading for over 6,500 days.
Graduation.

According to my living room table I have taken no less than two pictures each day in preparation for this one. At this point an attempt to organize them seems futile - and if I'm being completely honest counter-intuitive. I'd rather spend time with the actual kid - not the ghosts of kodak. Because let's be real - this ain't no celebration.

It's not.

I mean, the kid did the bare minimum of what society asks somebody with his capabilities to do: learn enough to function and participate in society. OK, yeah, let's give him a pat on the back and all, it might even be cake worthy - but let's be real:





No - this isn't a celebration.

As a matter of fact - I'm not sure what it is. I'm not scared for him - he's a great kid, with a good plan, and a strong support system. I'm proud of him, and who he is, but not overly impressed just because he aces a math test or writes a killer history paper.

I'm sad. Mostly sad. And yes, I know this is what is supposed to happen in life, and I know that I would be much sadder if he weren't the kind of kid who was capable of heading out to do great things.

But dammit, I'm going to miss him.

I'm going to miss showtunes emanating from the shower every night, the way he kisses his little sister's forehead every time he walks in the door. I'll miss late night cocoa with him, and his all-too-accurate impersonations of everyone at the diner table. I'll miss watching him on stage, and signing his permission forms and hugging him goodnight and walking in to see what he's doodling at his desk. I already miss making pirate treasure maps with him and bedtime stories, and lunchbox notes, and now I will be missing even more.

Maybe that's what a graduation party is. It's not a celebration. It's parents shaking the world by the shoulders with 13,467 photos, a rootbeer keg and 200 gas station donuts saying, "Look at this kid - isn't he funny? Isn't he kind? Isn't he a great piece of work for this world?!" And then silently begging the world to take care of them, to love them as much as we do, to chew them up just enough, but never spit them out.

Ten days.
Ten days.

3 comments:

Treats said...

I don't have any helpful words or consolation for you. I hate that my kids grew up and are independent. Granted, I don't want them living in my basement playing video games - but darn it, I miss them. Sending love and hugs.

rylini said...

Right? But I'm not above buying an X-box and a mini fridge for the basement to lure him home on the occasional weekend.

Lisa McDermott said...

This is how I'm feeling already, with two shorties headed to high school next year. I had a pretty crummy childhood and have felt that adulthood has been MUCH better, but then I turned around and am trying to give my kids this awesome, mostly easy, fun childhood and then they have to go out into the world and get SMACKED IN THE FACE. Augh! I should have been more of an abusive parent so they'd never have their hearts broken!

Oh, wait. It doesn't work that way. It's just up to us to love and let go, love and let go, love and let go. Man, that sucks.

Keep speaking the truth, lady.